Equipping Parents for Loving Conversations on LGBTQ Topics

In today’s culture, Christian parents face increasing pressure to align with messages that often contradict biblical truth—especially when it comes to sexuality and gender identity. More than ever, parents need confidence, compassion and a clear understanding of how to engage their children in these important conversations. These moments are not obstacles, but opportunities to disciple our kids in truth and love.

Here are five foundational truths that can help parents navigate these discussions with grace, clarity and courage:

1. This Is Who We Are

As followers of Jesus, our identity is first and foremost in Him. This foundational truth shapes everything we believe and do. Rather than following shifting societal norms or personal preferences, we ask, “What is God’s will?” and we turn to Scripture to find the answer (see Matthew 16:24; 2 Timothy 3:16-17).

Children need to know that faith in Christ is not merely about tradition or morality—it’s about living in surrender to a God who loves us and leads us. When parents confidently affirm that God’s Word is our source of truth, children are more likely to trust that the boundaries we set are grounded in something far deeper than rules—they’re grounded in relationship with a loving, holy God.

2. This Is What He Planned

God’s design for each person is intentional and purposeful. Before we were even born, He decided who we would be—including our biological sex (Ephesians 1:4; Psalm 139:13-16). Our identity is not something we create—it’s something we receive from a loving Creator.

Sex and marriage are also part of God’s beautiful design. They are sacred, not shameful. God created sex to be shared within the covenant of marriage between a man and a woman, forming the foundation of family and the miracle of new life (Genesis 1:31; Hebrews 13:4). Parents can talk about sex not as a taboo topic but as a sacred one, showing that God’s design is both good and protective.

3. This Is Why It’s Hard

Let’s be honest: this isn’t easy. Children today are surrounded by messages that contradict God’s plan for sex, marriage, and identity. They may hear that “love is love,” that gender is fluid, or that traditional beliefs are hateful. These moments can be confusing or even painful for kids trying to live out their faith.

We are reminded that living according to God’s design often makes us different—and that’s okay (1 Peter 4:4). In fact, studies show that God’s plan for marriage and family leads to longer, healthier lives. But more importantly, we obey because we trust that God knows best—even when it’s unpopular or hard (Isaiah 29:16).

4. This Is What We Do

Acknowledging God’s design doesn’t mean our desires always align with it. All of us—kids and adults alike—have desires that may not reflect God’s best for us. This includes our feelings about sexuality, identity, relationships and even food or entertainment (Galatians 5:17; Genesis 3:16-19).

Instead of shaming kids for their feelings, we can teach them that emotions are not sins—but how we respond to them matters (1 Corinthians 10:13). When they experience confusing or even unwanted desires, the answer isn’t to hide but to talk, confess and seek strength in God (James 5:16). It’s not about perfection, but about direction—helping our children turn toward God with every struggle.

5. This Is How We Stand

In a culture where truth is often seen as relative, standing on God’s Word takes both courage and compassion. As parents, we lead by example—confessing our own struggles, staying faithful to God’s truth and being transformed by His Spirit (Romans 12:1-2).

Standing firm doesn’t mean being combative. We’re called to listen, love and respond with grace, even when we disagree (2 Timothy 2:24). And when we’re pressured to compromise, we remember Peter and John’s words: “We must obey God rather than human beings” (Acts 5:29, NIV).

At River Valley Church, we want every parent to feel equipped to lead their family in truth and love. Conversations around LGBTQ issues aren’t just about behavior—they’re about belief, identity, and discipleship. By keeping Christ at the center, we can offer our children a firm foundation in a shifting world.

You don’t need to have all the answers. What your children need most is your presence, your prayers and your willingness to point them to Jesus.

Next Steps for Parents

• Pray regularly for wisdom, clarity, and open hearts.
• Create space for ongoing conversations—not just one-time talks.
• Model grace and truth in your own life and relationships.
• Use Scripture to shape your worldview and guide your discussions.
• Reach out if you or your child are struggling—you're not alone.

For additional guidance, we highly recommend exploring more resources from ReStory Ministries at restoryministries.org. They offer biblically faithful, pastorally sensitive tools to help families navigate these important conversations with courage, grace and clarity.

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